What they would choose...

When given the following two bad choices which would the majority of men choose...

Choice #1 - To be alone and unloved

Choice #2 - Inadequate and disrespected

They would choose choice number 1. Most women would choose to be disrespected rather than unloved. Does this seem weird that we are on such opposite sides of this choice? What's the reasoning behind it? To a man RESPECT is everything. Contrary to Areatha Franklin's song to a woman LOVE is everything. Not that we both don't want to feel it all, but given one of two bad choices surveys say that our priorities are such.

Do you agree with this information? The first time I read it (a couple of years ago), I asked Jordan what he thought and he totally agreed. Yikes, I thought, how often do I not make him feel respected? One of the major things I used to do was make fun of his sense of direction in front of others. I never knew how much this hurt him. It actually made him feel like less of a man even though I said it all in fun. It told him that I didn't trust him and said the same to others (at least in Jordan's point of view -especially when it comes to other men). WOW - that's never something I want to do to my husband. I want him to feel how much I do trust him and support him and rely on him. How can I do this...tell him, with my words, but especially my actions.

Since having a child more and more things have come along that could really reinforce my trust or disrespect him more. Because mom always knows best...right? No, sometimes another way is not the wrong way, just a different way. We moms need to recognize this and make it a priority to acknowledge that even though baby didn't get dressed in the PJ's we would have chosen they are in PJ's, their teeth are brushed and they are ready for bed. We need to say thank you more often and brag about him in front of others. I'm not talking about not addressing issues, but I am talking about being aware of how to communicate those issues.

My section from Proverbs 31 woman that I am working on this week is...

Never spiteful, she treats him generously all her life long.

Armed with the above information it would be really easy to do things to hurt our men in a moment of anger or frustration. That is being spiteful. We need to go out of our way to be kind to our husbands even when they act like jerks. Generous is how this version of the Bible puts it.

Even though I am due in a little over a week and feel tired and worn out I am making it my goal this week to go out of my way to be generous to my husband. What can I do to make him feel like a MAN? How can I show him I trust him? What can I do to make sure I am never spiteful?

I would love it if you would join me in this venture and give me some examples of what you can or will do. I'd also love to see if you have any interesting responses to your actions/words.

For me this week it's about making RESPECT my goal!